A Gift for Favor
The gift [is] a favorable stone in [the] eyes of its owners, unto all which it turns it causes to be prudent. Proverbs 17:8
The Hebrew word “so-had” (שֹׁחַד) refers to a gift that is given for the purpose of bringing favor. Although not specifically a bribe, it can be used to gain favor in an illicit way, which is prohibited to be used in this manner under the Mosaic law (Deuteronomy 16:19). However, when used properly the result will be a favorable attitude towards the one giving the gift. It is the one who walks righteously and speaks with equity while shutting up bribery that will see God (Isaiah 33:15), where a wicked man accepts a gift to pervert the way of justice (Proverbs 17:23).
We see this type of favorable gift being given in negotiations (1 Kings 15:19), which is not meant as a bribe, but to bring favor. When used this way, it will cause the one receiving it to be wise in handling practical matters while exercising good judgment related to the circumstances bringing about the gift.
The negative side of giving is seen when one who uses money to gain favor. Examples include with Ananias and Saphira giving a gift to the Apostles (Acts 4:37), Simon trying to bribe the Apostles into giving him the ability to give the Holy Spirit by the laying on of hands (Acts 8:18-20), and Felix seeking a bribe from Paul for his release (Acts 24:26). However, when used properly, this type of gift will result in a favorable attitude from the recipient. In business, when a shop is willing to offer free service, such as fixing a flat tire, the one receiving this generosity is far more likely to come back and spend money because of the favorable attitude the gift produces. Those who are honest in giving such gifts continue to provide fair prices for their services, whereas those who use such offers to upsell customers are essentially providing a bribe. This tactic typically results in dissatisfied, and often angry, customers.
This world is a malignantly evil place, but that does not mean we cannot walk in wisdom through it, redeeming the time and knowing the desirous will of God (Ephesians 5:17). Gifts should never be used to pervert justice, or manipulate others, but are of value in setting a positive frame of mind towards us. This aspect of giving can also be seen in acts of kindness. Kindness is not an inherent trait for humans, (There are none that do kindness – Romans 3:12); however, when we, as Christians, are using the fruit of the Spirit, God’s quality of kindness can be expressed through us, which puts others at ease (Galatians 5:22). A gift, therefore, is not just a tangible item, but a friendly disposition, a helping hand, and even a manifestation of kindness. Remember, it is the kindness of God that brings a change of the mind, not wrath (Romans 2:4).
Therefore, as the elect of God, let us put on kindness (Colossians 3:12) and be wise in the way we walk in this malignantly evil world. We are children of the light, walking in the day—not like unbelievers who indulge in revelry, drunkenness, and lewdness, driven by their own lusts (Romans 13:13; 2 Peter 3:3) using bribes for dishonest gain. Gifts can be offered in a wise way for the purpose of gaining favor without becoming a bribe. For a well-given gift can go a long way in subduing anger and promoting prudence in the recipient.